Nickelback expresses a feeling most of us have in one of their most recent releases.
So I’ll be holdin’ my breath
Right up ‘til the end
Until that moment when
I find the one that I’ll spend forever with.
‘Cause nobody wants to be the last one there.
‘Cause everyone wants to feel like someone cares.
Someone to love with my life in their hands,
There’s gotta be somebody for me like that.
‘Cause nobody wants to go it on their own
And everyone wants to know their not alone.
There’s somebody else that feels the same somewhere,
There’s gotta be somebody for me out there.
I certainly don’t want to minimize the desire to be complete and have a partner who walks through life with you as a loving spouse. Clearly, the story of Adam and Eve and all the Bible says about marriage demonstrates that.
However, the problem is far too many of us are looking for that one person out there whose mere presence can provide happiness and contentment. We have the idea that if we just met the right guy or girl we could have satisfaction for life. This misunderstanding has caused most of the broken homes that exist today. Young men and women met and felt some kind of chemistry, thinking, “This is the one.” Then after they were married for a time, that chemistry vanished and they believed they were mistaken. So they abandoned their spouse to search for that one special person.
Again, I know finding a good spouse is very important. But if we are looking for that kind of contentment and fulfillment from another person, we are always going to come up short. There is only one who can provide that for us. That one is God.
Hebrews 13:5 says, “…be content with what you have, for he has said, ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you’” (ESV). If we want true contentment, happiness, fulfillment and satisfaction, we have to find it in God. Just read the Psalms and note from where the happiness and contentment for those writers came. Their refuge was God. Their rock was God. Their comfort was God. Their security was God. Their sanctuary was God. Their self-esteem was God. Their salvation was God.
We have to quit looking for all these things from other people. They simply can’t provide it for us. They will always fail and we will always be left hanging. God, on the other hand, can and will provide if we will simply let Him be our refuge and our comfort through all that life throws at us.
Are you tired of being alone? All those things you’re trying to get from others, instead, try God.